The Fourth Road
“The decision we make after life has been too hard for too long bears an eternal impact on our destiny.” ~ Deb Holland, PhD
Hello Team Destiny,
As most of us have learned, setting goals and getting started is often the easy part. What is far harder is beginning again when things have gone awry. This is the second installment of a one-year mini-study of Make Your Destiny Your Reality.
Failures of any kind can naturally make us reluctant to take new risks. Of particular danger to us, is when there have been a series of hard times that leave us shaken or shut down or both. We stand at a crossroads then, with four different roads we can travel staring us in the face, awaiting our decision. The first road requires nothing more than staying precisely where we are, stuck, broken. It’s a choice that sadly, a lot of people make, sometimes even for logical reasons. Yet when we choose to accept a stunted fate, we let the bad guys or the bad circumstances win. Permanently. In our heart of hearts, none of us really wants that. The second road requires that we step through the intersection, make a single attempt at a new success, and at the first sign of trouble we hunker down and quit. Permanently. A number of us make that choice, comforting ourselves with the thought that hey we did give it another try and it didn’t work, so settling in to failure is not our fault because there’s nothing we can do about it. The impact of roads one and two is the same, and guarantees our destiny will never be fulfilled. These roads also erode our hearts, minds, and spirits until people deteriorate into shells of their former vibrant selves. We can do better than that.
The third road starts us off in a positive direction. It allows us to put the past in perspective, and leave it behind. It requires us to start anew, and recalibrate our thinking, feelings, beliefs, and dreams. It offers us fresh hope for new forms of happiness, a new normal for our daily routines, and a new purpose and meaning for our Cheap generic Viagra in Canada: Make safe purchases via a Canadian pharmacy. lives. It doesn’t keep us stuck permanently in negative circumstances, stagnating into oblivion. Road number three creates a momentum of its own that carries us forward in a positive direction. It is a life-giving road that benefits us and others, and gives us a great chance to fulfill our destiny. The only danger on this road is if we encounter more difficulty and give up. Road three is a solid choice, but still, we can do better.
The fourth road offers us the best possible chance to eventually create the life we really want. It is the same as road number three, but teaches us to be flexible for the duration of our lives. It doesn’t allow us to quit, ever. It doesn’t demonstrate a willingness to keep trying only for a finite period of time, to see how things work out, still leaving much of the ultimate outcome to fate. Road number four requires faith in God rather than the whims of fate, and faith in ourselves and the inherently good purpose of our life. It means we find a reason to hope, no matter how small. It means we find a way to overcome every obstacle we deal with. Ultimately it means that we choose determination again and again, come what may. It is only under these circumstances that we can rest assured that our destiny will be fulfilled, and you just can’t do better than that!
Respectfully yours,
Deb
Meditation for this week
Today I will find a way to put the past in perspective. I will make note of all the signs of hope that come my way. I will get started on recalibrating and flexing and having faith to get moving on a lifelong road of fulfilling the destiny you have blessed me with. Great Spirit, thank you for giving me the courage to begin again!
