Yearly Archives: 2017

Leaders my Leaders, welcome back!

There are five major issues that can hold an individual back personally and professionally. It is essential to determine what type of impairment is compromising the ability to function in a healthy way. Keep in mind that our purpose is not to judge, condemn, or diagnose anyone. Our goal is to figure out what is causing the trouble so we can create an effective strategy for overcoming it. While these following problems will vary by degree and individual, if you have one of these issues it is inevitable that it will bring problems into your life.

1. Addiction. The individual may be addicted to a substance or activity. Or they may be involved in other people’s addictions. Or they may have grown up in a family that had an addict in it. Regardless of what the source of the addiction is (self, others, family of origin), any system with an active addict in it is going to be compromised. Those systems create a highly distorted worldview for everyone in them. Therefore, finding the right support for an addict is important. Rehab centers similar to The Holistic Sanctuary (https://www.theholisticsanctuary.com/) are put in place to take over the support role from the individual or family. With professional help, assigned roles, and rules designed to protect the addict from the natural consequences of their choices, don’t exist, and they can get the help they truly need. They can finally start down the tough road of breaking their addiction. There are many ways that you can break free from your addiction, one of them is to go to an inpatient clinic (like the one found at https://www.honeylake.clinic/), however, this isn’t for everyone, so you have to find the right thing for you.
2. Mental health challenges. It is critically important to distinguish between situational stress that exists due to an external challenge in only one environment, versus problematic behavior that is generated by the individual and is pervasive across environments. We all face situational stress. Health problems, family issues, money troubles, or other type of difficulties can throw anyone temporarily off their game. It’s possible to have more than one life problem at once, and be in a highly stressed state, but again it is temporary. The trouble is coming from the stressors overwhelming the coping skills or other resources the person has to resolve them. The pressure is coming from the outside of the person, and they are doing their best to adapt to it. Mental health issues are internal. The pressure comes from inside the person. They tend to experience the same kinds of problems in all their environments, including work, family, and personal life. This does NOT mean they are bad people. We are simply trying to figure out what is causing the disruption in the work environment. If you are dealing with someone with a true mental illness, it may be that they aren’t able to respond well to attempts to work towards more acceptable behavior. They may be seriously lacking in insight, empathy, or the ability to adjust their behavior. There is a lot of good information online about how specific disorders affect people, if you are interested in learning more about signs and symptoms. These folks typically want to do a good job, but have organic issues that make it really tough for them.
3. Criminal activity. We like to see the best in people, but it’s necessary for us to face the harsh reality that some people make choices in their lives to become involved in illegal activities. Some of these people will engage in illegal behavior while at work. Even if people are involved in criminal activity only outside of work, the effects of that can still greatly impact the environment. These people will have zero interest in changing their behavior because they are profiting from it too much. All the advanced communication skills in the world won’t help when dealing with this kind of issue. These people don’t honor the spirit or mission of the workplace, they corrode it. If they perceive someone as interfering with their activities, they can become dangerous or even turn violent.

Next week we’ll cover the final two issues that can destroy any leadership career, in any organization, at any point in time. Until then, be healthy beloved ones!

Leaders my Leaders, welcome back!

You will never reach your full potential as a leader unless you become an integrated, whole person. You will have the best possible impact, and also have the most inner peace, once you do the work required to fully develop yourself as a person. There are a lot of excellent resources out there about how to accomplish this goal. Regardless of what kind of issue you face, there is hope for you. There are a wealth of options for getting help with specific problems. In this digital age, there is no excuse for not finding free or low-cost resources to make progress on areas that are holding you back. Your local library system can also offer you life-changing CDs, DVDs, and other materials at no cost whatsoever. You don’t have to have a lot of money, or spend endless years in therapy to overcome the trouble in your life. If you can afford therapy and feel it might be useful to you, by all means make use of it. But if you don’t have money to spend to get yourself some help, then make the most of the free resources that are available. This includes 12-Step groups, church, sports, music, the arts, or a lot of other rewarding activities in life. Find something healthy that brings you happiness and peace, that challenges you, and gives you a sense of connection. You’ll grow in these types of environments, and good changes you make in one area will help to improve others.

The bottom line is, we all have issues we are dealing with, and we all have baggage of one kind or another from the past. Maybe you grew up in dire circumstances, or maybe you’ve made such bad mistakes that you feel broken and resigned to a lesser life. Once you’re an adult, it really doesn’t matter whose fault something was, what matters is what you do to move past it. You will miss out on opportunities to have a happy life if you remain fragmented or compartmentalized. Unless you’ve faced your own darkness, you’ll have blind spots that will be readily apparent to others. You’ll have an inner angst that will gnaw at you, and that will show up in a variety of ways in your life. People want to help those who are sincerely doing their own work. They don’t want to help people who refuse to live in reality, or who have a bad attitude. Be fully awake to your own life, in it’s entirety. Face it, fix it, and flourish!

Next week we’ll talk about the 5 primary issues that can hold a leader back. Until then beloved ones, keep reaching for a better you!

Leaders my leaders, welcome back!

Here is the third and final set of traits. How are you doing so far? Have you realized you have a few things to improve? Are you actively working to make progress? Overwhelmed by what you’re discovering about yourself? Pick one place to start and keep working at it. No matter how far you have left to go, any progress you make today gives you more health, healing, and wholeness than you had yesterday. The effort and sacrifice it takes to grow into a genuinely mature person is well worth it!

Until next time my beloved leaders, keep growing and I’ll see you soon!

Leaders my Leaders, welcome back!

Here is this week’s set of traits for you to ponder. Remember, no one is perfect. Progress is the goal.

Until next time my beloved leaders, stay on the grow!

Leaders my Leaders, welcome back!

So how do we recognize immaturity? What does maturity look like for that matter? How do we know that we’re on a path that leads to wisdom and inner peace? For the next three weeks we are going to answer those questions. There are common traits that immature people share. Their emotional growth is stunted, and their behavior is stuck at an earlier developmental level. I refer to this as the arm-fart stage of development. Junior high cafeteria level. Funny perhaps, when you’re 12. Sad and pathetic when you’re 42. Mature people have traits in common that set them apart in a powerfully positive way. If you want to increase the power of your leadership, then developing as many traits on the list as possible, is the most effective way to accomplish that goal. Keep in mind that no one is perfect. We are all a work in progress. None of us will have all of the traits we’ll cover in the next 3 weeks. None of us will perfectly utilize the traits we do have in every single circumstance every single time. The key is to consciously choose to do as well as we can as often as we possibly can, and be intentional about having a positive impact on ourselves, our team, our organization, our families, and our communities. Yep, it’s a huge job. But it is an amazing and incredibly rewarding experience to develop these traits and see the sometimes life-transforming benefits they create in our lives and the lives of those around us. Here’s part one of the list:

Until next time, beloved leaders, take good care of yourself and your team!

Leaders my Leaders, welcome back!

Integrity is not the most important trait for a leader to have, maturity is. Mature people have hallmark traits that can be relied upon. Mature people get the best possible results from themselves and others. They have evolved to their highest level of functioning, living, and loving. Then they seek to learn and grow even more. These folks are in balance, have a great perspective, and an excellent attitude. They are fully accountable, and make mindful, intentional choices. They have a profoundly positive ripple impact on the world.

Immature leaders cause a lot of destruction. They may not have any of the major dysfunctions we’ll discuss later on, but they also haven’t grown up enough to meet their current responsibilities well. Some of them are immature because they lack an example that showed them what maturity looks like in daily life. Others are proudly immature because they have no interest in self-development, and they benefit too much from their bad behavior. Eventually however, their choices will catch up with them, when something happens that they aren’t able to escape or laugh off. Then they end up regretting not having chosen to develop maturity when they still had control over the process.

The bottom line is that life will grow you up. The same is true of leadership. The path of self-discipline is rougher at the start, but allows you the time and space to grow at your own pace and in your own way. It becomes a comfort and one of your greatest allies throughout the course of the rest of your life. Those who don’t choose self-discipline however, have a more carefree start but a much tougher landing later on. Usually by then, someone or something has intervened. At that point, the path to maturity is prescribed and must be accomplished in a compressed timeframe. Someone else is setting the goals, making the decisions, and then you are stuck carrying out their plan regardless of what you think or feel about it.

Next week we’ll begin discussing traits of immature versus mature leaders. Until then, lead well and love it!

Leaders my Leaders, welcome back!

The very best leaders I’ve ever had the pleasure to work with, and those I know in a more indirect way, all seem to share one trait in common. They are coming from a spiritual perspective. Notice I didn’t say they all came from the same religion. Or attended any particular church. Or any church at all for that matter. Nor did I say they all read from the same version of scripture. Or worshipped the same ways. But all of them do actively follow a spiritual path. If you want to be counted among the greatest leaders of your generation, then spirituality is your secret key to the kingdom.

If you and God aren’t on speaking terms, you need to work through that. If you are at war with God then it will be impossible for you or your team to have genuine peace. For our purposes in this teaching series, I am not defining peace as the absence of trouble or turmoil. I am defining it as the unshakeable faith in God, yourself, and your team that tells you that no matter what happens, you will be able to figure it out. Together. It all begins with you. God is the only one who can transform you. Any teacher’s role – myself included – is to provide you with new information that makes you think. That leads you to making better choices. God takes care of everything else. You can put on a show for the world, but God still knows what’s inside your heart. When you turn your heart over to God, you will never be the same. Neither will your leadership. You will find yourself not with less struggles, but with a much deeper, richer understanding of those struggles. That perspective will allow you to withstand events that would have crumpled others into oblivion. There is no single decision you can make about your leadership career that is more important than developing a spiritual life that works for you.

God wants you to know that He loves you. He cares for you. More than we can fathom. You haven’t messed up so bad that He can’t save you. His mercy is fresh and new each day. All you have to do is ask for it. I say this with great respect for you: if you exclude God and spirituality from your leadership, then you will be appointed to your position, but you will never know the blessings of being divinely anointed for your position. I’m living proof that mistakes can be remedied, hardships overcome, injustices made right. God called me to do the work I’m doing right now, and it is the sweetest, most exhilarating journey I have ever known. I made the choice, and I’m inviting you to do the same. God’s been waiting a long time for you to Come Home to Him. Today can be that day!

If you’d like to Come Home today, then please join me in this prayer, or any other that you see fitting for the magnitude of this occasion:

Dear God,

I give my heart to you. I know you created me and you love me more than I can possibly understand. I know you are merciful enough to forgive my mistakes, and just enough to make right the harm that has been done to me. I know you allow me to be in a leadership position for a reason. Today I give my leadership career to you. Do with it as you will. Help me grow. Help me do right by myself, my team, and my organization. Help me stay in balance so I do right by my family while building my career. Bless me so that I may pass that blessing on to others, and help them become everything you created them to be. I accept the tremendous responsibility that comes with my position. I ask you to always watch over me, helping me make good choices, and becoming a force for good in our world. 

Amen!

Congratulations my friends, I am very proud of you! Let the new phase of your life and your leadership begin. 🙂

Leaders My Leaders! Welcome back.

Leadership begins with you. If you’re chaotic or dysfunctional, then you’re going to do damage. It really is that simple. You have to lead yourself to make good choices first before you can expect that from your team. Every day you are sowing seeds that you will harvest later. What is your harvest going to be like? Will it be robust, with just a few unavoidable weeds mixed in? Or will it be mostly weeds, with a few inadvertent good things thrown in? The bottom line is, if you are making healthy choices, then you and your team are going to have a bountiful harvest. But if you are making bad choices, then you are eventually going to face those consequences. The longer you delay changing your ways, the more intense and longer lasting your pain will be. That pain will spill over onto your team, robbing them of their well-being and perhaps altering their futures right along with yours. You don’t want to generate that kind of seriously bad karma. When you choose wisely today, you can have confidence in your tomorrow.

Leading yourself first brings you peace, your team hope, and your organization good results. You become an upstanding member of the community. You respect yourself. You honor the gift of leadership you have been granted.  There are three key aspects of self-leadership: maturity, integrated wholeness, and sustainable life practices. All three are essential to building a foundation of bedrock rather than quicksand. Leaders who wisely choose to build on bedrock will stand the test of time and all kinds of weather. Leaders who choose to foolishly build on quicksand will find that eventually the storms sweep away what was never strong to begin with. They will be trapped by their own poor choices, with no way out.

Next week we’ll talk about the one trait the most amazing leaders all seem to share. Until then, take good care of yourself and your team!

Leaders My Leaders! I care deeply about you, your team, and your organization’s work in the world. That’s why I’m challenging you to grow into the best possible version of yourself. Your role is in fact that important. Tremendous influence and power lies in your hands. It is of the utmost important that you wield it wisely.

Let me share with you a few truths about leadership. It’s a tough business. It’s not comfortable. Nor is it supposed to be. It’s not about you. It’s about the team. It’s ALWAYS about the team. If you have to make a choice between one individual and the team, pick the team. Every. Single. Time. You are there as a human shield. You are there to absorb the hits on behalf of the team. You are there to maintain order, to inspire, educate, entertain, counsel, console, comfort, build up, look after, make sacrifices for, love, encourage, care about, and hold accountable your team. All that is on you. It’s a big job. But it’s so worth it! Guiding a group of people who share your values towards accomplishing a mission for the common good, well, that’s that the good stuff in life. For every moment their quirks drive you crazy, they’ll repay you with a thousand moments of pride at watching them grow and accomplish more than they thought possible. Become more than they thought possible. For every time the goofy troubles they get themselves into make you curse under your breath, there will be moments that take your breath away because they pulled off something amazing.

That is what it means to be a leader, to serve alongside a team. You’re there with them, and for them. In every circumstance. You’re the one they are looking to for guidance. You are the one who holds so much of their professional and personal well-being in your hands. If that doesn’t simultaneously terrify, excite, and awe you, then you have some serious work ahead of you to get your mind right. The skills of leadership can be learned. But having a good heart cannot. If your heart isn’t right towards your people and your organization, then you are on a collision course with the consequences of your bad choices. If this is you, then your only hope is to let your heart be transformed. It’s worth the work it’s going to take. We all reap what we sow. Position yourself for a bountiful harvest, not a life of bitter regrets.

Until next time, I’m praying for your strength and wisdom. 🙂

Welcome back Awesome Leaders! Here is a list of what you can look forward to over the coming months. We are going to be covering these topics in detail because they are of vital importance to our collective future. We want thriving organizations, strong marriages, healthy families, and individuals fulfilling their purpose in life. Leadership is how we make that happen.

• Part One: Leadership of the Self
  • Personal Maturity
  • Integrated Wholeness
  • Sustainable Life Practices
• Part Two: Leadership of the Team
  • Interpersonal Excellence
  • Strategically Developing Others
  • The Art of Consequences
• Part Three: Leadership of the Organization
  • Daily Deliverables
  • Mission Evolution
  • Keeper of the Cultural Flame
• Part Four: Leadership of the Community
  • Collaborative Advancement
  • Life Altering Experiences
  • Leaving a Powerful Legacy

See you next week, and until then be strong and know I’m praying for you!