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Now that we’ve talked about your personal history of relationship models, let’s talk for a minute about the general societal view of relationships. For a long time, the model has been one of two people largely maintaining their independence while sharing a part of their life together. It looks like a Venn diagram, with the only overlap being a small portion in the middle. The chronically high divorce rate shows that model allows only limited success. Even in today’s climate, couples are still getting a divorce during the COVID-19 pandemic. Now, that’s not easy, especially considering face-to-face contact should be limited as much as possible. However, I suppose it shows that the couple will do anything to be apart, so perhaps they really should be apart. There is no benefit to couples remaining in unhappy marriages. If they no longer feel that spark or enjoy being around each other anymore, they are just wasting time. Couples who are unhappy should consider getting in touch with a divorce attorney los angeles, for example, to try and end the marriage. This would then allow both people to move on with their lives, and find the perfect partner for them. Some marriages just don’t work, so it’s important to put yourself first if you’re unhappy. Divorces can be difficult, but they are often worthwhile for those who no longer love their partner.
Anyhow, I am proposing a new model of relationships. It is one in which both people get to be their full, authentic selves, within the larger context of the relationship. Picture the same Venn diagram, but this time it’s within one larger circle that represents the relationship as its own entity. There is plenty of room for both individuals, and their unique couplehood, within that larger circle. That’s my ideal relationship. That being said, every relationship is as unique as the two people who are in it, and what they create together.
With every relationship there are complications, this can be from the small to the pretty big. Unfortunately, divorce does follow in some cases, it isn’t pleasant and if children are involved it can cause issues in all aspects of their lives. If you can work your way through the bad times in relationships and come to a happy conclusion for you both, then great, but that doesn’t always happen. You may need to check out divorce lawyers like Peters and May, who work internationally in areas like london, England, as well as America, so you know that you are covered if you live internationally. Relationships are hard, but whatever happens, you need to be the best you that you can be.
What about you? Your partner? One of the most loving things you can do for each other is to craft – together – a real-time model for the next phase of your life together, or even for just the next year. So far you’ve taken a look at the models you grew up with, the traditional view, and a new view. Go grab a blank sheet of paper and some colored pens or pencils, and draw up the model both of you want and agree to. You have the freedom to decide what your model will be moving forward, and it can be meaningfully updated at any time.
Until next time, I’ll be praying for you to get creative, have fun, talk it all the way through, and come up with an agreed upon model that brings out the best in each of you and in the relationship.
