Welcome back!
Starting with yourself is the right place to begin in building or fixing your relationship. It doesn’t mean you have to take blame for things that aren’t your fault, or that you have to excuse bad behavior. It does mean that you honestly take a look at yourself and make sure your own choices are healthy. If you have areas that you need to improve, that’s ok. All you need to do is make the decision and get started. Here are some questions for reflection:
What types of activities do you participate in that help you grow and mature as a person, regardless of what relationship you are in?
What are you working on accomplishing with your life?
What are your priorities?
If you are battling addiction or others issues that by definition will severely limit any relationship you are in, what have you do so far to overcome them?
If you need to make amends to your partner for anything, what are some ideas you can think of that would be meaningful to them?
When you invest in yourself and strive to live to the best of your ability, there will be nothing holding you back from offering your best self to a partner. When both individuals are doing their best, they have an uncompromised opportunity to create the relationship of their dreams.
Until next time, I’ll be praying for you to take a thorough, honest, courageous look at yourself and create the self-development plan that serves you well.
